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Reinvention by Dan Spainhour

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I wrote these lyrics as I was going through the decision-making process of “evolving” into a life past coaching.--Dan

Been on the path for so long
Hoping to be right but feeling it may be wrong
All the while building the persona
Being in the crowd but feeling like a loner

Looking back maybe I was where I was meant to be
But I was feeling trapped longing to be free
I truly believed I was following a higher call
What I want shouldn’t matter, I was helping others after all

But when my eyes opened, and I began to see
I was too concerned with who did I know and who knew me
Just trying to build a reputation and collect accolades
Hoping to impress others so one day I’ll be made

Day by day, game by game
Building an image that had to remain the same
What will they think, what will they say
If I simply walk away

Away from the game, away from the attention
Toward who I am; a total reinvention
No longer in the same circles do I run
A life in the sun, a life of more fun

But I’ve found it takes courage to reinvent
After the years in the spotlight I’ve spent
It takes guts to step on through to the other side
We’re so afraid of what we might find

The easy thing is to bury it deep
After all, we’ve got a reputation to keep
Do more, think less, even ask for an intervention
Anything to stop the process of reinvention

But to continue is to live a lie
Same thing, fall in line, then you die
For me the effort it takes to reinvent
Is time and energy well spent.

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