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A Memo From Dan


As many of you know, I was publishing a monthly journal, writing books, and newsletters long before I “evolved” from coaching. When I “retired” from coaching after 38 years I tried to make it clear that I wasn’t retiring; instead, I, like life itself, was evolving. Writing in coffee shops wherever life takes me is how I spend most mornings these days.

I believe that nothing is of value unless it is authentic. My writings these days are as authentic as it gets. For many, this glimpse into my evolving self has been difficult to comprehend. They see me as I was; not as who I am. But I have adjusted to this as my paradigm has continued to evolve.

In my writings I am revealing some of the most intimate experiences of my life and I’m making a stand for some very compelling principles. I realize that this may make it difficult for the old me and the new me to coexist. But just as my early days saw a yearning for the “coach” in me to manifest; these days, the yearning has transitioned to that of an author — one who I hope will even be more aligned to my authentic self.

I’ve said many times, “When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at will change.” I believe that my life experience can provide valuable insights to help look at things a little differently than most of us have been taught. By subscribing to my articles, you help keep the words coming.

I appreciate your consideration in joining me!


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